Why 'I Can't' is the poison that perpetuates toxic Victim Mentality

Self-Care
Written By NIkki Eisenhauer

Letting go of victim mentality feels like pulling our own head our of our ass.....when we do we realize it's not so dark and gross. Your pain is not your life; pain is just your pain. One of my all time favorite lines from The Shawshank Redemption is 'Get Busy living, or Get busy dying.' What are you going to do this week, to live more? How will you show up for yourself? How will you face what you are justifying hiding from, and transcend your own limiting beliefs.

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