Recovering People Pleasers and Mindset Motivation to own Big Days

Written By NIkki Eisenhauer

This week's episode feels like a PSA for People Pleasers. It comes out of the countless times I have held space for clients who's families have absolutely ruined their big days with chaos, negativity, competition, shaming, control issues, demanding their way, manipulation, drama tornados and passive aggressiveness. If you struggle with energy vampires or come from a moderate to severely dysfunctional family, you might want to give this a listen before planning your next big day or celebration. And shameless plug for my Boundary Course 2020--sign up is now open. It's for recovering People Pleasers, for sure. Light, love, boundaries! https://www.Emotionalbadass.com/Boundaries

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