Call in Show: Why Energy Vampires ALWAYS Find You (And How To Stop It)
Are you tired of attracting people who seem to drain every ounce of your energy? Do you feel like there's a target on your back for manipulative, self-serving individuals? If you've experienced trauma and consider yourself a highly sensitive person (HSP), this pattern might feel frustratingly familiar. The good news? There's a way out.
Energy Vampires and Mental Health
For those of us with significant trauma histories, it can sometimes feel like manipulative people can actually smell us. Like predators sensing wounded prey, these "energy vampires" seem to find us with uncanny precision. It's not your imagination—this is a real pattern that many trauma survivors experience.
As I often tell my clients, "They can smell us like our blood must smell the best to them." Our energy radiates vulnerability in ways that attract people who will ultimately leave us feeling abandoned, scapegoated, and shamed.
This dynamic isn't just uncomfortable—it's dangerous. These repeated cycles of connection and betrayal can lead to profound feelings of worthlessness, despair, and for many, even suicidal ideation. It's a serious mental health concern that often goes unaddressed in traditional therapy settings.
Intuition and Trauma Recovery
Here's a powerful truth: Your intuition likely already identifies these people correctly from the first meeting. Think back to those relationships that turned toxic. If you're honest with yourself, did you sense something "off" early on? Did you have a gut feeling that something wasn't quite right?
Most highly sensitive people have excellent intuition. The problem isn't that we can't sense danger—it's that we've been conditioned to ignore and dismiss our own internal warning systems. We override our intuition out of:
A desire to not seem judgmental
Fear of being alone
Hope that "this time will be different"
Self-doubt about our perceptions
The key to breaking this cycle begins with trusting yourself. From this moment forward, give yourself permission to honor your intuitive signals. You smell energy vampires just as clearly as they smell you—you've just been ignoring it.
Self-Respect as Mental Health Protection
Self-respect and self-love aren't just feel-good concepts—they're active protection against energy vampires. When you practice genuine self-respect, you naturally emit a different energy that these manipulative individuals find repulsive rather than attractive.
This transformation happens when you:
Stop harshly judging yourself for having boundaries
Address negative self-talk that reinforces unworthiness
Recognize and celebrate your strengths and accomplishments
Allow yourself to feel proud of your resilience and growth
Even saying the words "I am proud of myself" out loud can shift your energetic presence. This isn't about perfection—it's about acknowledging the work you've done and the person you're becoming.
As you build self-respect, notice how it changes your posture, your voice, your decisions. These subtle shifts make you energetically unappetizing to those who previously sensed your trauma as an invitation.
Discernment in Relationships for Mental Health
The solution to attracting energy vampires isn't to avoid all human connection. That's just swinging the pendulum to the opposite extreme. As social creatures, complete isolation creates its own mental health challenges. Instead, the middle path is learning discernment.
Discernment differs from judgment. It's not about condemning others but about making thoughtful choices regarding who gets access to your energy and inner world. With billions of people on the planet, you have every right to be selective about your companions.
Here's how to practice discernment:
Move slowly with new relationships, especially if they feel familiar in problematic ways
Notice when people demonstrate low empathy, maturity, or insight
Pay attention to how you feel after spending time with someone—energized or depleted?
Remember that your needs matter just as much as others'
This process won't be easy at first. Any new skill feels awkward and challenging initially. Give yourself permission to be imperfect as you learn. With practice, trusting your intuition and exercising discernment will become second nature.
From Survival to Thriving
If you've survived significant trauma, especially early in life, you've already demonstrated remarkable strength. Now it's time to give yourself something new: lightness. This healing work doesn't have to feel like carrying a 100-pound boulder. It can feel like finally putting down weight you've carried for years.
Start seeing yourself as the powerful being you truly are. Someone who survived childhood trauma, who kept going despite overwhelming odds, who continues to seek growth and healing—that person is objectively remarkable.
Your healing journey isn't just about avoiding pain; it's about creating space for joy. As you practice self-respect, trust your intuition, and exercise discernment, you'll find your energy naturally attracts very different people—those who add to your life rather than deplete it.
Remember: You are enough, even as you continue growing. The work you've done matters, and the person you're becoming deserves to be celebrated.
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- Abuse 14
- Alcohol 3
- Anger 9
- Bullying 5
- Childhood 37
- Codependency 8
- Covid 4
- Crystal Catalina 4
- Depression 15
- Detachment 2
- Disassociation 4
- Emotions 74
- Existentialism 2
- Faith 1
- Family 25
- Fatigue 4
- Focus 3
- Gratitude 11
- Grief 10
- Guilt 2
- Healers 7
- Healing 52
- High Sensation 4
- Hope 1
- Hypervigilance 7
- Introverts 6
- Lonliness 7
- Love 3
- Manifesting 5
- Manipulation 19
- Men 1
- Mindfulness 38
- Money 10
- Music 3
- Nutrition 2
- Overthinking 8
- PTSD 11
- Parenting 12
- People Pleasing 7
- Perfectionism 6
- Pets 4
- Relationships 14
- Resiliency 12
- Sadness 1
- Self Esteem 16
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