The Soulful Bucket List That Healed Me and Changed Everything
Many of us, particularly highly sensitive people, find ourselves caught in perpetual survival mode—constantly on edge, overthinking, people-pleasing, and giving away our energy until there's nothing left. We live with an internal, cranked-up "survivor edge" to every moment, making it difficult to truly experience peace, joy, or deep satisfaction.
The Survival Mode Trap
Survival mode isn't meant to be our default state. Like cheetahs that can sprint at incredible speeds but only in short bursts, humans are designed to activate survival responses temporarily—not as a constant way of living. When we remain in this heightened state, we burn out, compromising both our mental and physical wellbeing.
For those who grew up in chaotic environments with inadequate parenting, this pattern becomes even more entrenched. We enter adulthood feeling underprepared for life, constantly catching up, and never quite arriving where we want to be. Modern life—with its hectic pace, constant digital distractions, and bureaucratic frustrations—only intensifies these challenges.
Beyond the "Biggies"
When most people create bucket lists, they focus on what could be called "the biggies": traveling the world, buying dream homes, running marathons, or earning advanced degrees. While these goals have their place, they're not experiences we can access multiple times daily.
What if there was another kind of bucket list? One filled with tiny but mighty experiences that support thriving by grounding us in the present moment, connecting us to our authentic selves, and nourishing our spirits?
A Soulful Bucket List
Here are ten soul-honoring experiences for your own personal bucket list—not as achievements to check off, but as sanctuaries to return to whenever you need to shift from survival to thriving:
1. Witness a Sunrise in Stillness
Experience a sunrise without distractions—no camera, no phone, no conversation. Just you, your breath, and the awakening sky. Despite our modern devices, we still have ancient hardware in our minds and bodies that responds profoundly to natural cycles and beauty.
2. Sleep Under the Stars
Allow yourself a night where nothing separates you from the natural world. Feel the quiet hum of the earth wrap you in safety and wonder while gazing at the vast expanse above. Even if it's just on your porch in a sleeping bag, reconnecting with the elements can be transformative.
3. Write Letters to Your Younger and Future Selves
Connect with your younger self who tried so hard to figure things out. Offer encouragement and the love and support you may not have received. Then, write to your future self, envisioning what you want for them and committing to taking care of them today.
4. Take a Solo Retreat
Despite society's discomfort with solitude, sensitive people often need time alone to reset. This doesn't have to be elaborate—it might be a solo trip to a bookstore, a walk in the park, or finally taking that journey no one else wanted to join. The key is honoring your need for stillness without apologizing for it.
5. Practice Forgiveness Without Announcement
Forgive someone without ever telling them, and notice the space it creates within you. Start small if forgiveness feels challenging—the person who cut in line, the erratic driver, or even yourself for past mistakes. Forgiveness is emotional strength training that lightens your own load.
6. Get Your Hands in the Dirt
Plant something with your bare hands and visit it regularly like a friend. Touch the earth, smell it, observe the plant's growth. There's something deeply grounding about tending to another living thing, watching it respond to your care, and learning from its resilience.
7. Dance Wildly and Freely
Allow yourself to move without constraint—barefoot, perhaps under moonlight or candlelight. Modern life confines us in many ways; wild, uninhibited movement reconnects us with our natural state of freedom and expression.
8. Prepare a Nourishing Meal with Intention
Create one deeply nourishing meal made slowly and deliberately with fresh ingredients—not to impress others, but out of love for yourself. Breaking bread is one of the most fundamentally human acts, connecting us to our cultures, ancestors, and bodies.
9. Allow Yourself to Be Held
Cry in the arms of someone safe, letting yourself be held without shame or explanation. Even the most independent among us need connection and comfort. Finding people who can be a soft place to fall—even if they're rare—is essential to our wellbeing.
10. Say No Without Guilt and Yes Without Fear
Practice setting boundaries with clarity and confidence. Honor both your yeses and your nos without the mental and emotional turmoil that often accompanies them. This takes practice but profoundly shifts how you move through the world.
From Surviving to Thriving
Moving from survival to thriving mode isn't about grand gestures or complete life overhauls. It's about these small, meaningful moments that help us get outside our heads and into living our lives.
Remember: You have every right, even when it's scary, to face your fears and learn to live more fully rather than just survive. You deserve to experience this life with peace, joy, and deep satisfaction—not just endure it.
What tiny, mighty experiences would you add to your own soulful bucket list?
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Episode Tags
- ADD 1
- Abuse 16
- Alcohol 3
- Anger 9
- Bullying 5
- Childhood 37
- Codependency 8
- Covid 4
- Crystal Catalina 4
- Depression 15
- Detachment 2
- Disassociation 4
- Emotions 74
- Existentialism 2
- Faith 1
- Family 25
- Fatigue 4
- Focus 3
- Gratitude 11
- Grief 11
- Guilt 2
- Healers 7
- Healing 52
- High Sensation 4
- Hope 1
- Hypervigilance 7
- Introverts 6
- Lonliness 7
- Love 3
- Manifesting 5
- Manipulation 19
- Men 1
- Mindfulness 38
- Money 10
- Music 3
- Nutrition 2
- Overthinking 8
- PTSD 11
- Parenting 12
- People Pleasing 7
- Perfectionism 6
- Pets 4
- Relationships 15
- Resiliency 12
- Sadness 1
- Self Esteem 16
- Self Love 11
- Self Respect 1
- Self-Care 26
- Sex 1
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