How to Scare Away Human Predators: PART 2
Have you ever wondered why certain people seem to target you repeatedly? Why manipulators and abusers appear to smell vulnerability like predators tracking prey in the wild?
The answer lies in unhealed trauma and the signals your body broadcasts without your conscious awareness. Highly sensitive people often present as easy targets because trauma taught the wrong lessons about safety, boundaries, and what behavior to accept from others.
This isn't about weakness. This is about relearning what will actually keep you safe.
Understanding How Predators Spot Unhealed Trauma
Predators can literally see and sense unhealed trauma. Your body language, posture, energy, and vibes create a powerful force that either invites or repels predatory behavior.
Highly sensitive people and narcissists attract one another for specific reasons. Awareness of these dynamics becomes critical on any healing journey. The energy you project into the world determines whether you walk through life with safety and empowerment or continue cycling through harmful relationships.
The good news? You can shift this energy immediately, even before your trauma is fully processed. You can fake it until you make it. Stand taller. Project confidence. Carry yourself differently starting today.
Healing the Original Wound Through Trauma Processing
Healing the original wound requires moving through the experiences that caused your current signals. You can't become someone without that wound, but you can heal it. You can learn to repel the predators you've been inadvertently attracting.
Changing your signals means processing what caused them. This work requires an emotionally intelligent person who functions as an emotional adult to bear witness. Whether that's a paid professional or someone in a support group, you need someone who can validate your reality.
Human beings are wired as social creatures. We need reality testing. Did you see that? Am I crazy? We need another person to confirm our perceptions. That's not dependency. That's how humans were designed to function.
Trauma therapy and somatic work reconnect mind to body after dissociation. This means paying attention to sensations that had to be ignored during betrayal or trauma in earlier life. The reconnection of mind to heart to gut to body can happen through multiple modalities: yoga, EMDR, meditation, and countless other strategies.
Multiple modalities help you feel through and metabolize what happened. When you eat food, your body digests and metabolizes it. You must digest and metabolize trauma for it to change form and process through. Just as food moves through your digestive system, trauma must flow through rather than staying trapped in your body keeping score.
Learning the Predator Playbook to Build Boundaries
Football players study plays to build strong offense and defense. Highly sensitive people benefit from studying how predators operate.
Predators use specific tactics:
Love bombing to overwhelm your defenses
Gaslighting to make you doubt reality
Triangulation to pit people against one another
Future faking to keep you invested in promises that never materialize
Intermittent reinforcement to create addiction-like attachment
When you recognize act one as predatory, you never have to stay for act three.
Building Boundaries Muscles Through Practice
Boundaries are harder than they sound and deeply nuanced. Most people teaching boundaries don't cover the complexity required for real protection.
Start small with low-stakes situations. When you order something at a restaurant or online and it's wrong, correct the order. Don't over-apologize. Don't say "I'm so sorry, this is such a pain, thank you so much for helping me."
Just state the facts: "This order is wrong."
Practice holding your head high and using a strong voice. When something rings up incorrectly at the grocery store, don't lean in defensively as if you're about to be wronged. Speak from confidence and groundedness: "I noticed this rang up incorrectly. Could we get a manager to correct this? If that's the price, I don't want to purchase that item today."
Every boundary held teaches your nervous system that self-protection is right for your adult self, your inner child, and your inner adolescent. After a lifetime of being taught that self-protection is wrong, this relearning becomes transformational.
Predators don't want you to have boundaries or fences. They want to walk right up to your house and peek in the windows. Give yourself messages that self-protection and boundaries are safe and right for you.
Trusting Your Gut After Trauma
Trust your gut. Any trauma survivor has spent a lifetime sensing in their gut that something is off. You've felt when situations don't feel right, when love bombing feels phony and excessive.
The simple truth: if it feels off, it's off.
This gets confusing because when you first feel someone's genuine safety and security, your system doesn't recognize it. You might pull away from healthy people because their steadiness feels unfamiliar and strange.
You're learning to fine tune your gut over time. You will make mistakes. That's necessary before getting it right. Nobody learns to ride a bike without falling, without scraped knees and elbows.
Start noticing when your gut feels neutral and calm. You've trained yourself to notice alarms, but you haven't keyed into the absence of walking-on-eggshells energy. When do you feel your gut relax? Who creates that feeling?
What happens when you stop talking yourself out of discomfort? What if you sit with "I don't know why yet, but my gut doesn't like this" and gather more information?
That's a better invitation than dismissing yourself with "It's fine. I'm the one with all the trauma. I'm probably screwing something up."
If you can't trust your gut, whose gut will you trust?
Changing Your Body Language to Repel Predators
You can change your body language right now, before trauma is fully processed.
Sit up taller. Stand taller. Spread your clavicle and shoulders instead of caving inward.
Tall women often learn to make themselves smaller to fit in with average-sized people. Big men do the same. Think about how shrinking reads to a predator in the wild.
You are allowed to take up space. Your body is yours. Whatever version of higher power or universe or life gave you your body, it belongs to you. Embody it. Own it. If other people feel uncomfortable with your size, that's their issue.
Predators look for shrinking energy. Self-defense isn't just physical—it's energetic posture.
Many introverts try to walk around invisible. How does that work when walking past a mountain lion or an angry bear? Invisibility reads as "easy target."
Be intentional about energetic posturing. Bring attention to your posture. Make eye contact. Project your voice. Don't mumble or swallow your breath.
Building Support Systems as Highly Sensitive People
Highly sensitive people often confess: "Is something wrong with me? I don't like 98% of people."
There are 8 billion people on this planet. You don't need to like or align with half of them, or even 30%. That still leaves billions of people—more than you could meet in multiple lifetimes.
Stop feeling guilty about preferring highly emotionally intelligent people who work on themselves. That's a small percentage of the population, but it's still millions of potential connections.
Screen for your people. Scan for them. Learn how to attract them and be attractive to them. Build a support system. You don't need 200 people—you need a few grounded people who can reality check you.
Isolation is the predator's playground. When you start a relationship with a master manipulator, they talk negatively about people in your support system. This is intentional. They separate you, make you doubt your people, and transfer your trust to the predator.
In healthy relationships, there's a strong vibe of "I'm glad you have people who love you. I hope I get to meet them. I hope they like me too." No gameplay exists around that.
Stay connected to grounded people who can reality check you.
Slowing Down in New Relationships
The biggest thing highly sensitive people need to know: slow down in new relationships.
Your feelings don't want to slow down when you're being love bombed. Love bombing creates a rollercoaster of intense vibes and energy. Nobody gets on a rollercoaster wanting it to go slowly.
When a relationship is right, you don't have to speed it up. Good things take time. Good relationships take time.
When you're with a healthy person, your nervous system grounds and slows down internally—even when external events feel exciting. You can exhale even in the excitement. If your insides are sped up, that's often your system signaling that something isn't right.
Real love withstands the test of time and develops over time. Manipulation needs speed. It needs you discombobulated and experiencing whiplash so you don't figure out what's happening.
If someone rushes intimacy, they're likely hiding something.
Recognizing What You Can and Cannot Control
You cannot eliminate all risk. You can only control what you can control.
If you find yourself entangled with a predator, you cannot control whether they "get it." They don't want to get it. Not getting it means you can't play games with them anymore.
You cannot control:
The empathy level in another human being
Someone else's integrity
Another person's maturity level
Whether predators continue seeking to dominate others
Predators don't know how to feel connection and love in beautiful ways. They're not wired to seek growth or learning. They don't shed skin the way highly sensitive people evolve.
Narcissism creates a god-like complex. Why would a god self-evaluate, reflect, and change? Predators don't grow and change. They remain predatory from person to person to person, using, abusing, and discarding.
What you can control: how long someone has access to you.
One man wanted to marry someone but stiffened the moment he met her friend group. The second he realized she had people who had her back, the dynamic shifted. She recognized the pattern and ended the relationship that same day.
When he demanded an explanation—recognizing her as someone who explains and teaches—she refused. "We're not right for each other. You'll have to figure this out on your own. I can't explain it to you anymore than I have."
That's controlling access. Once someone shows you the games they play, cut off access. Period.
Understanding Trauma Repetition
You control whether you learn from predatory experiences or repeat them.
Trauma repetition means you keep picking up the same type of abuser repeatedly. Some part of your psychology stays stubborn in the learning department. Hope overrides wisdom.
Hope shows up and says, "All the other people similar to this couldn't get it. Maybe this one could. Wouldn't it feel great if this type finally got it after a lifetime of this type not getting it?"
That hope keeps you in dysfunctional dances that lead nowhere good.
The goal isn't to never be targeted. You can't control that fully. The goal is to recognize when you've been targeted, to posture yourself in a way that communicates: "I am not the one to play these games with."
You can't be mouse to their cat, standing in front of the cat begging them to see your humanity. Recognize that cats will play with mice until the mouse is dead. Get out. Recognize that predators will prey on every vulnerable person they encounter.
Learn to recognize what's happening and exit fast and fiercely.
Practicing Fierce Compassion for Yourself
Many sensitive people give away fierce compassion to everyone except themselves.
If predators have targeted you repeatedly, it doesn't mean you're weak. Your trauma taught wrong lessons about what keeps you safe and secure. Your trauma taught wrong lessons about what you're supposed to endure from other people.
You can relearn. You can let go of what never served you. You can learn what will serve you.
You can become grounded, self-respecting, and discerning. You can weather what feels like addiction withdrawal when you pull away from love bombing. You can still be deeply kind.
It was never supposed to be that you're kind to everybody else and unkind to yourself.
True healthy kindness extends outward but also turns inward. That's how you keep your cup full so you can keep extending kindness to others. You can't do that from an empty cup.
Look back at your history with users and abusers. Can you see how having over-compassion for someone showing little to no compassion for you opened you up to pain? That imbalance created dynamics that wouldn't let your wounds heal. You'd heal a little, then more manipulation would rip the scab off, leaving you raw and confused again.
You can be open-hearted and boundaried simultaneously. When someone assumes you'll be open-hearted to their attack, they're shocked when boundaries appear. You can be open-hearted to discussion, concern, and conflict—even when hard. You won't be open-hearted to full attacks on your character.
Let's be more shocking than enabling.
The Gift of Fear and Trusting Intuition
Denial is a save-now-pay-later scheme. Trusting your intuition isn't paranoia—it's protection.
No animal other than humans feels intuition and then talks themselves out of it. That's true insanity. If you had to endure that type of craziness growing up, it's your responsibility and your birthright to come back to your intuitive gut and learn to act from it.
Healing trauma isn't just about inner peace or talking through what happened. Healing trauma means learning to become almost unrecognizable to predators.
You want predators to pass you over like a house with a barking dog.
Healing trauma means broadcasting safety, strength, and sovereignty—communicating that you are your own authority figure and gaslighting will never have authority over you.
You will never present as prey again. You are someone predators pass by. You ruin all their games.
That strength lives inside you forever.
Deciding Who You Want to Be in the World
How do you want to come across to other people in the world?
You're not beholden to introversion making you look like prey. You can be quiet, a loner, and still give off energy that says "don't mess with me."
What excuses try to scare you away from this kind of strength, self-protection, and self-empowerment? What are your resistances? What are your fears?
Getting direct and clear with people reads as respect. That's how you earn respect. When you respect yourself and refuse to appear as prey in this world, everything changes.
Every time you trust your gut, hold a boundary, seek support from actually supportive people, or exit quickly before seeing act three of master manipulation, you become dangerous to predators.
You're ruining their games.
That makes you someone who once had so many games played on them but now refuses, refutes, dismisses, and denies access to any gameplay. That's strength. That's security nobody else can give you, but you can absolutely give it to yourself.
Human predators exist. Your job isn't to eliminate them from the world. Your job is to make yourself an unappealing target—someone they instinctively avoid because the games won't work.
Stand taller. Trust deeper. Exit faster. Protect fiercer.
Become the person predators pass by.
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